How often do we look at reflection in the mirror and tear it down? How often do we make a mistake and then talk down to ourselves? Of all the things that have been said to me in my life, my own hurtful words have been the worst. The biggest bully that I have ever faced has been the one I see in the mirror every day.
For so many years, the reason that the hurtful words and stares were so painful was because I believed them—deep down in my soul. I didn’t feel good enough or worthy of anyone’s love. I felt so damaged and broken. My scars went deeper than the surface. Every time I had to tell someone what had happened to me, it broke my heart. So often I wanted people to be able to look beyond my scars and see me—the woman underneath the scars.
All along, however, I held that power. It wasn’t the acceptance that I needed from others. I needed to accept myself. I had to realize for myself that I am worthy of love. God said so when He sent His Son to die for me. Our worthiness has nothing to do with our flesh. If we had been worthy, then Jesus wouldn’t have needed to die for our sins. God doesn’t need us to put ourselves down to lift His name up. Yes, our flesh is sinful, but our hearts are perfected in God’s love. We are made in His image.
Perfection is only an illusion. No one is perfect. We don’t have perfect lives or perfect families. Life is hard. It is filled with hardships, scars, heartaches, and sin. We overcome it all, however, through God. That is how He set this up. He is our savior. He has grace for our every need. One of the greatest gifts that I have ever given myself is the freedom of perfectionism and total acceptance. Whenever I make mistakes, then I ask for forgiveness of God and then I forgive myself. My imperfections, however, do not define me or take away God’s love from me. The only thing perfect is His love.
Today if you remember one thing, please remember that you are loved. You have a purpose. Inside of you is a beautiful gift that the world needs. The world doesn’t need you to be like everyone else. The true gift is your uniqueness. It has nothing to do with money, social status, outward appearance, wisdom, or knowledge. Your gift is you! It is your smile, your laughter, and your abilities. Every day is a gift and another opportunity to love and be loved.
Love and blessings,