Will you allow your excuses to define you and design your life? 

• By candidasullivan
• April 29, 2024
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One of the things I wish I had known sooner is that my thoughts create my life. If I always make excuses for not doing things, I will make a solid case against myself. I train my brain to find reasons why I can’t do certain things. Then, when I’ve collected enough excuses and reasons why I can’t do it, I justify my failure. 

An example of this for me was my writing. When God gave me the gift to write, I gave Him many reasons I couldn’t write. 

I don’t know what I’m doing.

I don’t have the time.

I can’t write.

I’m not inspired. 

I’m not creative.

I can’t share my heart and most profound emotions with others. 

I can’t share my heartaches and challenges. 

So, every time God urged me to write, my list of excuses surfaced. As long as I believed my excuses, I couldn’t overcome them. And my actions justified my excuses. 

I allowed the frustration of not knowing what I was doing to stand in my way of learning. 

I kept myself so busy with irrelevant things that I didn’t make the time to write. I had the time—I needed to manage it better. 

My resistance to writing prevented me from desiring to do it. I couldn’t write because, in my subconscious mind, I had refused to do it. 

My negativity towards it blocked my connection with God. I wasn’t inspired because I was unaligned with God. 

I was not creative because I used my energy to complain instead of creating. 

I stuffed my emotions deep inside of me, so I wouldn’t have to feel them or share them, which created so much stress in my life. 

Refusing to share my heartaches and challenges caused me to repeat the same kind of hardships over and over in my life. Because I rejected growth, I repeated the same trials. 

It took me seven years to get published because I resisted the writing process. When God gave me something to do, I gave Him an excuse. I CREATED THE PAIN IN MY LIFE. 

The good news is that if we can create pain, we can also design our best life. 

It all comes down to what we choose to focus on. Many people are successful without feeling fulfilled. For me, the key to living my best life is to FOCUS on God and all the good things in my life. I had to train my mind to look for possibilities instead of excuses. 

Instead of saying, God, I can’t do it. I say, God, will you help me do this? 

I realized I could look for things to complain about or look for my blessings and praise God for them. When I complain and look for everything wrong, my brain will find it. 

The opposite is also true. I can train my mind to look for the good in all things, and if I can’t find it on my own, I can ask God to show me what is good about it. 

When I realized that my thoughts influence my actions, which create my life, I understood the importance of asking God to help me. I want to co-create my life with God, who loves me and wants what is best for me, not the enemy who hates me and wants to destroy me. 

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