Do you feel uncomfortable in conversations sometimes?

• By candidasullivan
• February 16, 2024
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Sometimes, we go through tough things that aren’t easy to discuss. I’ve been in places where my heart felt shattered and my soul weary. In the overwhelming pain of it all, it’s hard to navigate conversations that expose the pain.

During that time, I learned a lot about conversations. I learned more about how to read people’s expressions and body language than hear their words. I felt so relieved when some people noticed my discomfort and changed the subject or just stopped asking me questions altogether.

There are some things sweet friends that are hard to talk about. And when someone is drowning in pain, the last thing they want to do is talk about it in front of a group or a public space. Especially when the questions seem too personal or come across as judgemental.

Some of the greatest gifts I received during my struggle were those who hugged me and told me they loved me without needing to know any details of my situation. I will never forget those who allowed me to remain silent when my insides were screaming in pain.

We truly NEVER know what anyone is going through—some of the hardships I’ve never discussed with anyone but God. If we feel led to talk to someone, we can reach out and tell them what we are thinking about them and offer a safe place for them to speak if they want. That way, we put the decision to talk in their hands. They might need someone to talk to. But if not, we can respect their privacy, pray for them, and love them through their hardships.

A hug when we know someone is struggling is a beautiful gesture. It demonstrates love without the need for words.

Sometimes, our words and actions hurt someone else. Imagine going through something incredibly difficult and seeing others judge it and make fun of it. All in the name of the Lord.

Instead of allowing all those little pricks of pain to destroy me, I’m letting God show me how to use it for good. One thing I know for sure: I NEVER want to use my Lord or His word to hurt someone else. I NEVER want to stand in self-righteousness and hurl condemnation to others.

I want to be like Jesus. Amid judgments, I want to offer love. I want to provide hope to those who feel hopeless and help those who feel helpless. I pray that no one ever cries out to God in pain because of me. I desire to be the kind of person that, regardless of another person’s circumstance, God could send them to me for love and support.

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