Why God Allows the Battles We Don’t Want

• By candidasullivan
• November 26, 2025
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God loves us so much therefore He gives us hardships. He doesn’t just leave us in our comfort zone and allow us to live our lives our own way. When He sees that we are going the wrong way, or not growing in our lives, then He sends us a trial to shake us up.

The pain of the trial gets our undivided attention. It causes us to cry out from the depths of our souls. In the midst of the storm, we need God more than anything else. The harder it gets, the greater the advantage we have. Because pain positions us to grow.

When hardships come upon us, the enemy tells us they have come to destroy us. God, however, knows they have come to deliver us a precious gift. It is one that He picked out just for us. Inside the trial is what we need to fulfill our purpose on Earth. It helps us take another step toward becoming the person God created us to be.

This morning, I thought about how wonderful it is when God gives us a trial. Because He is allowing us to grow. During this time, we can either grow closer to Him and learn the lesson He wants to teach us, or we can turn away from Him.

Today, I am so thankful for the hardest battle of my life. Even though I lay awake many nights crying and praying, and at times I felt as if I couldn’t breathe, I am so thankful for the wisdom and the knowledge this trial has given me. I have a deeper love for others, more empathy, and I know with certainty that God will never leave me.

When this trial started, I was upset with God. I prayed so hard for Him to prevent this thing from happening, but it happened anyway. At that time, I was so disappointed by Him—even though I didn’t want to be, and I felt ashamed of my feelings. He had the power to stop it from happening, and yet it happened anyway.

But during the most painful moment of my life, when my heart was screaming in pain and I was crying so hard I could barely breathe, He sat with me. He didn’t distract me with promises or explanations—He comforted me with His presence. And that was enough. At night, when the pain tried to consume me and I cried myself to sleep, He held me in His arms and allowed me to sleep.

Because He knew that the trial was for my benefit. God knew this thing had to happen. And I’m sure it broke His heart to see me in so much pain. He has been so patient with me as I worked through it all. Because He wants me to grow.

In order to move past it and come out on the other side of this trial, I had to forgive God—not because He did wrong, but because I didn’t understand His right. My honesty with Him helped us to get even closer. God can take my questions and my disappointments, and use them all to help me grow. I told Him how it all hurt me so much. And then He blessed me with the ability to see just a small glimpse of my pain through His eyes. This is where the growth comes in. Without the pain and the desire to understand, we won’t grow through what we go through.

God knows we are human. He knows that the majority of our suffering is caused by our carnal mind. Therefore, when we can be vulnerable and honest with Him about our pain, then He can bless us to see our situation differently. I believe God can use anything for our benefit—even the things we don’t want and don’t understand.

Sometimes the pain of going through the trial is excruciating. But the gift of coming out the other side of it all is priceless.