The Good Hidden in Our Hardships

• By candidasullivan
• March 16, 2026
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We can hold onto the pain and let it develop deep ridges of hurt and resentment that turn into grudges. The enemy will even justify every hardship and glorify it until it is considered holy for holding on to it so tightly. But every moment that we choose to hold onto the pain, we choose suffering. 

It happened because it was supposed to. 

The Bible explains this so beautifully. 

Romans 8:28 KJV

28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

To truly believe this verse means trusting that God will use even the painful things for good. When I see it this way, I no longer feel the need to carry the offense or hold onto the hurt.

So often, I can get so deeply ingrained in my beliefs and what I think should have happened and what is right in my eyes, and cause myself a lot of pain. As long as I stay stuck in the pain, I can’t move forward. It weighs me down, redirects my thoughts, and keeps me in a loop of suffering. 

Acceptance helps us break free. 

When I accept that it was supposed to happen, it takes away the enemy’s power. 

When I trust that God is in control of it all, it brings me peace. 

When I believe that God will take all of my pain and use it for good, it brings me joy. 

Who am I to instruct God? What do I know anyway? 

Sweet friends, something so powerful happens when we rise up amid the pain and praise the Lord. It’s powerful when we worship in the suffering. And surrender all control and outcomes to the Lord. 

The day I got saved, I found victory in Jesus. Regardless of what happens, my Lord is victorious. Therefore, I want to live from the victory rather than from the disappointments, heartaches, and grievances. 

Our trials help us to know God in a way that we couldn’t otherwise. It helps us grow deeper roots. And bear more fruit. 

We are here to show others about a God who can save them. A God that loves them and wants a relationship with them, too. We do this by having a beautiful relationship with the Lord and living a good life in front of them. 

I can’t do this if my mind is consumed with worries and my heart is filled with grudges. When I’m like this, all I can show others is my pain and bitterness. 

God doesn’t allow hardships without a purpose. When I forgive, love, and accept everything that happens to me, I step into the light and give others a glimpse of my Lord. 

Are you willing to let go of what hurt you and the bitterness it caused?