The Power of Letting Go

• By candidasullivan
• November 20, 2025
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Do You Want to Hold Onto Your Pain, or Are You Willing to Let Go and Heal?

The enemy wants us to hold on to our pain. He wants us to replay it, relive it, and believe it defines us. If he can get us to stay in the pain, we won’t heal. Sometimes he even convinces us that pain is a badge of honor we’re meant to carry forever.

But God will heal it — if we give it to Him and allow Him to take it.

I remember the first time God presented a different perspective. He asked me, “Why do you want to keep your pain and punish yourself every day?”
At first, His question made me angry. I didn’t choose this pain. The amniotic bands attacked me, scarred me, and forever changed my life. The pain chose me.

Didn’t it?

Yes… but.

God wanted me to understand the power of the “but” after the “yes.”
Yes, terrible things happen to us. But while we can’t control what happens, we can choose how we respond and what we believe. We can give God every ounce of our pain and allow Him to heal it — but only if we’re willing to let it go.

For a long time, I didn’t realize my pain was serving me. It was my excuse. My way out. My reason not to try. It also became my punishment. I blamed myself for what happened to me, so I believed I deserved the hurt.

Living with it became my life sentence.

But God broke every chain and restored my life.
He helped me gather the broken pieces and become willing to lay them down.

I let go of the disappointment.
I let go of the blame.
I let go of the guilt.
I let go of the excuses.
I let go of the unworthiness.
I let go of the pain of being different.

I accepted what happened. I realized no amount of grief or resistance would change it. I eventually came to believe that what happened to me was supposed to happen… because it did.

And here is the powerful part:

I asked God to show me how to use it for good.
I asked Him to change my perspective.
I asked Him to help me overcome it — instead of just surviving it.

Pain can become a stumbling block or an inspiration. We get to choose.
Letting go doesn’t lessen what we endured — it empowers us.

When we take the hardships the enemy throws at us and let God use them for good, we give meaning to what we’ve been through. We honor our story. We allow God to bless it and bring glory to His name.

Sweet friends, when we give God our pain, it loses its power to hurt us.
God turns our heartaches into blessings.