Are You Magnifying Your Pain?

• By candidasullivan
• October 31, 2025
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Driving home yesterday, surrounded by the beautiful fall foliage, I was in awe of God and all He has created. I looked at the trees with their vibrant colors and appreciated their beauty. Every fall, the leaves die and fall, making room for new life in the spring. It’s a necessary process for the tree.

It made me think about my own life—what in me needs to die so that something new can grow?

So I asked God. He knows it all.

God gave me a beautiful thought to ponder. From this moment forward, what if I stop looking at the flesh—at what people do or don’t do—and instead look at their souls?

What if I meet everyone with love and compassion and believe that people are doing the best they can where they are in their lives, with what they’ve been given?

We all sin in our flesh. It is corrupt, and one day it will die. But the soul is eternal. Our souls are so precious to Jesus that He died for us. Therefore, I want to live for Him.

When I believe people are doing their best, I can meet them with love and compassion rather than anger. When I understand that God will take care of the wrongdoings of others in my life, then I don’t seek my own vengeance.

God sees it all, and He understands it all. Sometimes I might desire to punish someone who already has more pain than they can handle. I might magnify the situation and make it worse than it is. And if I stay in my anger and justify it, I might miss a beautiful opportunity to show someone the goodness of my Lord.

Do the things of this world truly matter?

Colossians 3:2 (KJV)
2 Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.

The Bible tells me to set my affection on things above. Therefore, when I feel wronged, I need to take the situation to the Lord. When I feel anger, I need to ask God to help me see things through His eyes.

God can help me with every aspect of life. Sometimes I hold onto things that hurt me and create a storm inside when I could have just dismissed them.

So I have to ask myself: What is the anger costing you? Is it worth it?

When I sit honestly with these questions, I can see the bigger picture. I can see how it hurts me to hold onto the anger and pain. The freedom is in letting it all go. It doesn’t mean what happened was okay—it just means I choose not to let it hurt me any longer.

In letting go, I let God decide what is right and needed and how He wants to handle it all. When I release my need for vengeance, I’m showing God that I trust Him completely. My Lord is the perfect example of righteousness, and I trust Him to do what’s best for everyone.

Sweet friends, there is peace in forgiveness and in seeing others with love and compassion.

Romans 12:21 (KJV)
21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.