From Victim to Overcomer: A Journey of Inner Healing

• By candidasullivan
• February 24, 2025
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For so many years, I felt like a victim of my circumstances. I needed others to understand my situation. And yet, I didn’t understand it. I wanted them to accept things I hadn’t accepted about myself.

Deep down, I thought that if others could accept me as I was, I could accept me, too.

So, I embarked on a journey to change how others viewed scars and differences. I wanted to raise awareness of Amniotic Band Syndrome. I figured if others could understand my situation, they wouldn’t judge me or be mean to me anymore.

As it turns out, the only thing that truly needed to change to have peace with it all was my thoughts and feelings. It was an inner turmoil. Therefore, outside things wouldn’t change it.

Having different laws, total acceptance and love from others, and no judgment didn’t change the resistance and pain inside of me.

When I did the inner work that I needed, everything changed. I sat with God and all of the uncomfortable feelings. Day after day, I poured my heart out in prayer. I examined my thoughts, prayed about them, and asked for understanding.

God helped me to change my perspective about it all. But I had to be open to new thoughts and feelings. My pain came from what I believed, not from others.

I am not a victim but an overcomer. I don’t let one thing define who I am. I don’t sit around and focus on my scars and the challenges they cause. But I focus on the person and soul underneath it all.

How do I want to show up in the world?

I realized that I could allow it to make me bitter or better. I could focus on the haters and all the mean things they said or on myself and what I want to do with my life.

I can take all the bad things and ask God to show me how to use them for good. When something happens that hurts me, I ask Him to help me see things differently and how to overcome them.

We don’t get to decide what happens to us, but we can decide what to do about it. Dwelling on it hurts us. While we might not be able to change the world, we can change our thoughts, which will change our lives.

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