A new perspective on dealing with rebellious children.

• By candidasullivan
• June 24, 2024
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When our children are rebellious, it’s hard to deal with. They want the freedom to become their person, and as parents, we often want them to be who we want them to be. Our choices usually don’t align, so we frequently fight about it. 

I want to share something I learned with you. It’s a simple mindset shift that completely changed my perspective and relationships. 

Our children are not giving us a hard time; they are having a hard time. 

When I can momentarily step out of the situation and ask God for clarity, He will open my eyes to things more profound than my eyes can see. Fighting will only make the problem worse. Then, we become an enemy when we need to be an ally. 

But if we can hold space for our children and try to understand them with love and without judgment, we can help them through their hardships. I learned that sometimes, their rebellious nature is a cry for help. But if we are constantly fighting with them, we will miss it. 

Instead of turning to anger, I learned to pray to God and ask Him to help my boys with things they didn’t talk to me about. I knew that I could see only a tiny percentage of the situation. Sometimes, our kids feel like they are drowning and don’t know what to do. They need to know they can count on us. 

I want to be a steady and strong mom for my kids. I want them to know they can come to me with anything and that I will always love them. Regardless of what they go through, I want to be a safe place for them. Above all, I want to treat them with love, forgiveness, and the same understanding God gives me. 

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